Uncomplicated Joy | Dr. Nikeya Young x Ruth DeBonnett-Southall | VLS Podcast Ep 88

Listen, family, I know we're ALL busy. Between running businesses, managing households, and trying to have some semblance of a personal life, it can feel like we're constantly juggling flaming swords while riding a unicycle. That's why I was so excited to sit down with Coach Ruth DeBonnett-Southall for Episode 88 of the Victorious Living Solutions Podcast.

Ruth is the host of the Becoming Serene podcast and a master at finding simplicity in the midst of chaos. As a fellow podcaster, entrepreneur, and busy woman, Ruth understands the struggle of maintaining peace when your to-do list is longer than a CVS receipt!

The Beauty of Simple Mornings

One thing that really resonated with me was Ruth's commitment to her morning routine. Y'all know I'm ALL about commanding your morning to win your day! Ruth shared how setting aside those first precious minutes for prayer, meditation, and intention-setting creates a foundation for her entire day. Even with kids, a business, and a podcast to run, she protects this time fiercely.

"When I start my day connected to my purpose rather than my obligations, everything flows differently," Ruth explained. Can I get an AMEN?

Setting Boundaries Without Guilt

We also talked about something many of us struggle with: setting healthy boundaries. Ruth dropped some serious wisdom about how boundaries aren't walls to keep people out—they're guidelines that protect our peace and energy.

"You can't pour from an empty cup," she reminded us. "And you definitely can't serve others when you're running on fumes."

This hit me right in my spirit because I know so many of us (myself included!) fall into the trap of saying yes to everything and everyone, then wondering why we're exhausted and resentful.

Embracing Joy in Small Moments

My favorite part of our conversation was when Ruth shared her practice of finding joy in everyday moments. She talked about how she intentionally looks for "pockets of peace" throughout her day:

• The perfect first sip of morning coffee

• A text message from a friend

• The satisfaction of crossing something off her to-do list

• The sound of her children laughing

These small moments of gratitude and presence have transformed how she experiences her busy life. Instead of always racing to the next thing, she's learned to pause and appreciate what's happening right now.

Your Invitation to Uncomplicated Joy

If you're feeling overwhelmed, stretched thin, or just plain tired, this episode is especially for you. Ruth's gentle wisdom and practical advice offer a roadmap to finding your own version of a simpler, more joyful life—without sacrificing your ambitions or responsibilities.

Tune in to Episode 88 of the VLS Podcast, "Uncomplicated Joy," and let Ruth and I guide you toward a more peaceful way of living. Because remember, family: your victory is my mission!

With love and purpose,

Dr. Nikeya